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On Doing and Scrolling
when you tell people all the things you're doing, you're scattered. when you tell people all the things you're scrolling, you're just on social media.
I have been known to give the people closest to me "Project fatigue".
I am a curious doer of things, so I'm constantly working on more than one project at a time. For example, as I write this, I have the following irons in the metaphorical fire: a children's book, a book club, where we read classics, several started, short stories, and two drafted novels; I am reading three books, I am training three people (personal training as in health and fitness), and I have plans to do more stuff.
When asked what I’m working on or doing with my free time, I do not list all of these things, but I may mention a few. When I list more than one or two things, I am immediately labeled as scattered.
But, I ask you this - are those people scattered when browsing Tiktok, Instagram, Amazon, Etsy, Pinterest, YouTube, etc.? Or are they exploring their interests less actively?
See, I have an idea, execute it as far as I want, and then move on. I experiment. The experimenting is what makes me appear scattered. But, if I said, “well, I spent my time looking up things on Tiktok and not doing anything with the thousands of ideas I have all the time,” I would be judged as lazy and as a person wasting my time. But, then, the judger would most likely shrug that last thought away as they, too, waste their time on social media.
so, what’s the point
You can’t win in the court of social approval. You may as well do what you want.